We become what we think so what are you thinking?

If you are focused on your limitations and setbacks, that’s exactly what you will attract.

Maybe you are saying, Why did my former spouse treat me with such little regard? We were married for over twenty years, and we were best friends, how little s/he must think of me?

And then the rumination begins.

Loops of worry ensue, creating fear and anxiety in the body.

This is not limited to only relational issues.

It happens in other areas of life. If you focus on your debt, you will attract more debt. This may sound too simple, but it’s how it works.

Whatever you focus on expands.

There’s another point that I want to make; it’s a sensitive matter so here goes: sometimes we are getting something from the story we are telling. This hits close to home, I stayed stuck in my story far too long, it was serving me. Maybe it was because I was receiving sympathy and understanding, enforcing that I was a good person and the divorce was in no way my fault. That was not the case, and it never is the case. (Accountability is a b*tch, but that’s another blog in itself).

I was giving up my power. No longer was I the director in my story, I was the victim. My happiness and my sadness were based on my former spouse’s actions, behaviors, and responses. In this narrative, he had all the power.

That kept me stuck.

How do we get “unstuck”?

We must rewrite our script, but first, we must find the motivation to do so.

We are motivated to change when we simply get sick and tired of being sick and tired and our focus turns within, not toward another person.

We can certainly assign all the blame to someone else and sidestep accountability, but that will only keep us stuck.

Or we can take our power back.

If the results in your life are not working, you know it’s time to change. Let that be your motivation.
Do you want to change?

If yes, there are two things you can start today:

1. Identify what is you intend to create for your life. Remember what you focus on expands so make it count.

2. Be aware of what you are thinking because CHANGE begins with your thoughts.

If you need to harness runaway thoughts, I can help. I’ve been there, and I know what it takes to get better.

Try this: write out what you want your life to look like in the present tense. Read it at least five times per day.

This may sound frivolous, but I’m speaking from experience. It works when you are ready for change.
Are you ready?