To My Daughter Before You Go…

“Mom, I don’t know what to do…what direction to take.” After one of these nightly conversations, I decided to jot down some ideas I know to be true.

1. Life is not a mismatch chain of events. The older you get, you understand things happen for a reason. Even pain has purpose, and everyone has a story to tell.

2. You are the only you that will ever be. Your story has been uniquely designed and crafted for you. You are on this earth to do great things because each one of us has a gift to share. You may not know what your gift is just yet. Your mother didn’t know what her gift was until age forty-four, and it took an upheaval to discover it.

3. No one is immune to pain. Count your blessings, serve others, and find a lesson in your pain. If you follow these steps, you’ll quickly realize life isn’t so bad after all. When it seems you’re up to your eyeballs in muck, it just mean you are in fertile soil, getting ready to bloom.

4. Thoughts create your reality. Thoughts matter and so do the words you use. “If only” are two words that should be banished from your vocabulary. It creates a condition of comparison that can never be fulfilled. And if you argue for your limitations, well, my darlin’ girl, you get to keep them.

5. We do better once we know better. Until then we repeat history. Understanding requires self-awareness and awareness is difficult to teach. Pray and be still in this frenetic world, awareness will come if you seek it.

6. We are born with a hole in our soul. The void cannot be filled with shiny, material things or a significant other. You are not your car, your house, your career or who you are married to. A spiritual practice and a relationship with God is the answer.

7. Find joy being alone. If you’re not happy being single, you will not be happy when you are with someone else. You must be whole and complete first to attract a whole, healthy partner. “A person cannot be lonely if they love the person they are with.” (Wayne Dyer)

8. Observe how a person treats their mother and animals. It’s an excellent judge of character. If you see questionable behavior, Run Child, Run, because you will be treated the same way.

9. Never be ashamed of your story. You have a choice – either be empowered by your story or fall victim to it. If you choose the latter you’ll miss the valuable lesson. The lesson will present itself again and again until you get it.

My name is India Kern, and I’m a Certified Divorce Coach and Mindset Coach who guides people who are stuck in a limited mindset to a place of unlimited greatness. I help them feel confident, find a sense of security and be HAPPY again because I believe everyone deserves to create an extraordinary life.

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