“Something struck me from behind. I’d never been hit like that before. It was pretty jarring. It kind of gave me instant whiplash.” (CBS Boston)
When the swimmer got out of the water, he felt severe pain in his chest. It was a shark bite that left a long, bloody gash on his back, which sent him to the hospital. At the hospital, the doctors made a SHOCKING discovery. They discovered a tumor on his right kidney about the size of a walnut, and he was diagnosed with stage one cancer. (CBS Boston)
This man never would have known about the cancerous tumor if not for the shark bite. He was grateful for the attack!
Divorce was my shark bite. I didn’t welcome it, and I was left wounded. As a result, I took a deep dive into my “self”. There I made discoveries that have changed my life for the better. I would not have known any of this if the divorce had not happened. I guess you could say, I become more self-evolved as a result, and you can too.
But how?
You are more powerful than you think, and you have the ability to have an amazing life after divorce, but it won’t just happen, you must create it. Oftentimes, we look at our current circumstances, and we believe these are the results that I will always get. Whether we realize it or not, we carry a mental blueprint of ourselves. This blueprint has been constructed from beliefs that have been formed from our past experiences, our successes, failures, and even our humiliations. From this, we build a mental picture of “self”. All your actions, feelings, behaviors will remain consistent with your self-image. This means you act like the person you conceive yourself to be, whether is it’s true or false.
Frequently, the way you see your “self” and the way “you are” are completely contradictory, and your interpretation of the situation is wrong. Imagine being emotionally invested in something that isn’t even true!? We do it all the time. You’re getting the results in life that are aligned with your self-image.
Do you like your “self”?
To fully live you must have a self-image that you can live with, that you can trust and believe in. You must find your “self” acceptable and be proud to be you. A negative self-image will destroy your life, and you will never get the results you desire.
When your “self” is secure and healthy, you feel confident, but when the “self” is threatened you feel anxious and shameful. The good news is, the self-image can be changed, and it all starts with a thought. If you are accepting a limiting thought as truth, you become emotionally invested in this idea. It then turns into a vibration that you send out to the world. Like attracts like. If you believe you are not enough, that’s exactly what you are going to get. If you perceive yourself as a victim of circumstance, you will find conditions to support this belief.
When we have a poor self-image, we suffer from anxiety, fear, worry, and self-condemnation. As a result, we choke off the ability to create a self that we are proud to be, a person who feels free to creatively express; instead, we shy away and cover-up. When we improve our image of “self”, our current results will also improve.
How do we change our self-image?
I answer this question and many more in my group coaching program called the “Be Better” Club that launching in 2022. Imagine being a part of a community that wants the same thing you do – “to build a better life after divorce.” One-on-one coaching interests you, but you crave to be among people who understand what you’ve been through. You want to be with others, watching reactions, hearing voices, and seeing smiling faces.
The “Be Better” Club is a group coaching program that brings together people who want more from life. Divorce has happened, and now it’s time to “be better.” I will kick off each session with a presentation that will cover topics that will help you grow. The BB Club is here for you to learn, evolve and expand to unlimited greatness. Best of all, you will make up a community with a collective goal which is to “be better” after divorce.
If you would like to:
Change a behavior that’s holding you back
Be comfortable with who you are as a person
Improve the results you are getting in life
If you’re satisfied and content with the results you’re getting right now, no need to click the button below. But if you’re craving more and you know there’s room for improvement, take a look and see if group coaching is a fit for you?
My name is India Kern, and I’m a Certified Divorce Coach and Life Coach who guides people who are stuck in a limited mindset to a place of unlimited greatness. I help them feel confident, find a sense of security and be HAPPY again because I believe everyone deserves to create an extraordinary life.